The Powerful Secret to Saving a Failing Relationship requires the person who’s after you to think through the question even of whether there’s anything that could be said or done that would satisfy them. And if the answer to that is no, well, probably the relationship is over. But certainly the person that they’re accusing has been put in an absolutely impossible position. But usually, almost inevitably, if the person meditates on it for a bit, there is something that would satisfy them that can be negotiated as long as they’re willing to give you the opportunity to do it, you know, stupidly and badly. He’s listening. And so if you want to help someone, the best way to help someone is not to give them advice, but to listen to them.